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| Happy Singles Awareness, its an article about love. | February 9, 2012, 1:48PM |
 by: lilithgothgirl |
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When you hear the word "Love" what do you think? Commitment? Myth? What is real love? Well, technically love is no more than a mere chemical cocktail in the brain. Love is a simple chemical reaction, but what an impact it makes on our lives! Love is life changing, mind boggling, and very easy to mistake for intense loathing. Before I really get into what I think real love is, I first want to cover the difference between love and lust. The desire to screw something isn't the same as loving it. The desire to mate is a human's primal instinct, but if no relationship has been established before two people "mate" they usually part ways shortly afterward. This is the difference between love and lust. Lust is for the moment, and love has longevity. Neither is more or less than the other, it just depends on what you want. The two aren't meant to be confused with each other. People who do confuse the two find themselves in disastrous relationships that end very badly. Chemically speaking, when you first meet that "special" person, dopamine (the pleasure chemical) is released in the brain. This chemical causes you to feel giddy, and euphoric. Norepinephrine is the chemical guilty for your racing heart, and adrenaline rush. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and well-know love researcher from Rutgers University says that these two chemicals produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite, and focused attention. She also says, "The human body releases the cocktail of love rapture only when certain conditions are met and men more readily produce it than women, because of their visual nature."(howstuffworks.com) Philosophically speaking, "Love is a many splendored thing."(frank sinatra) "It lifts us up where we belong."(Jack Nitzsche) "All you need is love."(beatles) I believe true love takes time and understanding. You cannot have real love without both. Love takes time because time brings a knowledge of the person that you wouldn't have otherwise. Time helps you learn what pleases them and what angers them. Time turns enemies into friends and separates the true friends, from the two faced liars. Time also brings an understanding of that person. If a couple has an understanding of each other, than the other smaller things like respect and communication come naturally. The secret to meeting an ideal someone is to not have a "type". If you look for the same kind of person, you will get the same results. That's why it's best to just have an open mind and "play the field". Selecting that ideal someone takes time and usually happens in unexpected places. The best thing to do is not commit yourself to one person until you are absolutely sold on them. While its best to not have a "type" it is great to have a "standard". Standards are personal boundaries that cannot be crossed. A good standard is not dating people who do drugs. These are really just rules of thumb to keep you away from the players and the bums. This truth goes for boys and girls. The secret to longevity in love is simply being stubborn. Short of abuse or neglect, you don't quit over the little things. You don't even quit over the "not so little" things. Some examples of little things would be meeting their ex, or they eat all the cookies. Some examples of the "not so little" things would be that they lost your debit card in walmart parking lot, or they embarrassed you in front of your friends. The secret to a clean break up is being direct. "I'm leaving, good bye" usually works. Say "no" when they ask if they can still be friends. While that may seem cold, saying "yes" is a lie, because, you don't want to be friends with that person, you just want to make them feel better. After the initial break up spend awhile away from that person to allow any remaining hurt feelings or general feelings to die off. Post breakup friendship is possible, there just needs to be a good set of boundaries in place for both parties. Friendship may seem awkward at first, mostly due to intimacy and sex. Confine yourselves to only hugging ,talking about your healths, and talking about the weather. This will help everyone recover from the break up with dignity while still allowing for a good friendship. Whether your relationship lasts forever or not, the lesson love teaches us is to have fun, and be spontaneous. Life is meant to be lived, so keep your mind and heart open. After a few heart breaks, it is hard to keep yourself open to new love. We must learn to quit living in the past, and live for the moment. When it comes to love, there are no rules and no limits, so have FUN! | |
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| Runes | July 27, 2011, 8:28PM |
by: lilithgothgirl |
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When someone hears "runes" they think of the little bones and pebbles used for divination. Actually, runes get their start from the Old Italic Alphabet and is also referred to as FUþARK(futhark). The runic alphabet was used by the Germanic tribes in between the 1st and 2nd Ano Domini. No one really used written word at that time though, because they used word of mouth to tell their histories and pass along information. This alphabet was reserved mainly for magical use. "Rune" means "whisper" or "secret. The root run- can be found in Baltic languages meaning "speech". In Lithuanian, "runoti" has two meanings "to cut(with a blade)" or "To speak". The elder futhark is the oldest form of the runic alphabet and it consists of 24 runes or letters. These are often arranged in three groups or ætts of 8 each. Elder futhark is derived from the old italic alphabet or from the Latin alphabet itself. The angular shapes of the runes, presumably an adaptation to the incision in wood or metal, are not a Germanic innovation, but a property that is shared with other early alphabets, including the Old Italic ones (compare, for example, the Duenos inscription http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duenos_inscription). Each rune has a name chosen to represent the sound of the rune itself. These names are not attested directly for the Elder Futharc itself. Reconstructed names in Proto-Germanic have been produced, based on the names given for the runes in the later runic alphabets attested in the rune poems and the linked names of the letters of the Gothic alphabet.The 24 Elder Futhark runes are: ᚠ=fehu ᚢ=ūruz ᚦ=þurisaz ᚨ=ansuz ᚱ=raidō ᚲ=kaunan ᚷ=gebō ᚹ=wunjō ᚺ ᚻ=hagalaz ᚾ=naudiz ᛁ=isaz j=jēra ᛇ=waz ᛈ=perþ ᛉ=algiz ᛊ=sōwilō ᛏ=tīwaz/teiwaz ᛒ=berkanan ᛖ=ehwaz ᛗ=mannaz ᛚ=laguz ŋ=ingwaz o=ōþila-/ōþala d=dagaz Most names, in spite of being reconstructions, can be assumed with a fair degree of certainty for the Old Futhark because of the concurrence of Gothic, Anglo-Saxon and Nordic names. The names come from the vocabulary of daily life and mythology, some trivial, some beneficent and some inauspicious: Mythology: Tiwaz, Thurisaz, Ingwaz, God, Man, Sun; Nature and environment: Sun, day, year, hail, ice, lake, water, birch, yew, pear, elk, aurochs, ear (of grain); Daily life and human condition: Man, wealth/cattle, horse, estate/inheritance, slag, ride/journey, year/harvest, gift, joy, need, ulcer/illness. Runes are still being used for divination today, though the meaning and usage varies from tradition to tradition. Rune stones are available in semi precious stones, bone, or wood depending on the preference of the user. Like any item of this nature, whether or not runes hide great power, remains a mystery. The power of such things lies withing the person holding them? Could it be that their intense belief in their runes is what gives them power? Much is still unknown about this ancient alphabet. Runes may be portals to a fantastical realm of fae or they could be mere rocks people foolishly look to as guides to navigate their pathetic lives. No one will ever know the truth. Thank you to Wikipedia and Encyclopedia Britannica for your wealth of information. | |
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